Within you find you

Healing your inner child, or doing inner-child work, has become a topic of increased popularity. Just search up #innerchild and #innerchildhealing on social media and you’ll see. But what is it and what does it really mean? (Read more after my poem)

If you are to find,

Go within your mind.

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The perspective you need,

Is found by taking the lead.

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Taking the lead,

By planting a seed.

To water and love,

Then it will rise above.

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The perspective you found,

Was being crowned.

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So dear all kings and queens,

Self-love is all that it means.

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For when you are fulfilled and whole,

You can share more than a soul.

Happiness is a bliss,

And I will say this:

Be the sunshine in life,

There is no need for a strife.

Share a smile,

And wear it with style!

Spread your wings,

And forget about all unimportant things.

/CG

You, yourself, and your inner child

Your inner child is the “true/original version of yourself” and can explain many patterns of behavior later in life. Healing your inner child is therefore all about connecting with yourself by recognizing and being aware of oneself, and maybe finding out how to meet your needs and/or change patterns of behavior today you don’t like/find favorable. This could be people-pleasing tendencies and a hard time saying “no”, seeking validation from others, overthinking, being highly critical of yourself or others, not being able to be alone or afraid of being yourself around others, and so much more.

How do you become better acquainted with yourself and your inner child?

By taking time for yourself and taking responsibility for your own wellbeing: thinking, reflecting, and taking actions. This could be done by:

  • Meditation/breathwork
  • Writing: a timeline of your life or a letter to yourself
  • Be honest about your patterns of behavior; reflect on possible explanations from your life and childhood (traumas, episodes?) – which needs weren’t met and/or are not met today? Which actions could you take to have these needs met today?
  • Talking with a professional therapist

Inner child work is not only about bringing up the past and your “not so favorable” behavioral patterns. More importantly, it’s about knowing yourself fully and truly to be happy in life.

No one is happy all the time, nor should we, for life needs balance, and to truly apricate the good, there must be some bad. However, in order to flourish and sincerely be happy in life, you must know yourself. Therefore, inner-child work is also about finding back to earlier hobbies and interests which gave you joy as a child. Maybe you could take up an old, loved hobby again? Drawing? Painting? Walking in nature? Playing football with friends just for fun? Do tricks with a ball? Reading? Photographing? Make a scrapbook or collage? Create music (DJ, play an instrument)? Or even try something new you always wanted to try, but haven’t yet?

Try to remember how you looked at that hobby as a child, and how you felt when doing it. Most likely you’ll remember a mindset of having fun, being explorative and endless possibilities – not how your later teenager-self, and even later adult, became self-aware of the lack of skills, knowledge, or talent…..

When was the last time you did something just for fun? You don’t have to be good at everything, go do something just for the fun of it – take up that hobby you used to love so much and get to know yourself in the process.

Have fun – just fun, with no pressure of having to “accomplish” something. You’re a terrible painter (or so you say)? Who cares, just have fun with the paint and brushes, or even better – just use your hands. You’ve always wanted to do cartwheels? Go to a park or make space in your living room, do cartwheels, or attempts of such, until you’re dizzy and laughing. If you loved playing with a ball, go juggling freestyle or ask a few friends if they’re up for a round of football?

Point being is to take time to know yourself truly, heal, and have fun. Put your wellbeing as a priority and make time for joy in your life. Do more of the things making you happy, without thinking of accomplishment or “having to do something” in the sense you “must”. Try not to grow up so quickly while doing all #adulting things – be playful and let your inner child out. “I get to” play football with my friends, paint for an hour a week, read a book before bedtime… The process may be hard, but if you have kids of your own at this point in life, look at and to them – take in their perspective: Join their playing instead of just observing and ensuring safety; join at the trampoline, on their muddy adventures in the forest, during their cartwheel practice, when drawing and painting everywhere, in their videogames/PC/PlayStation and so on.

/Love & Light, CG

Communication and Comprehension: Unraveling Life’s Perspective

My upcoming debut book is right around the corner to be published – keep posted. However, as a writer, those who knowknow, a writer never stops. Therefore, I’ve come far ahead on the next poetry book were I’m taking in readings, politics, media, people’s opinions of all met, colleagues, friends, family, and more. My next book is written with words “a little bit on the edge” or controversial as one might say, in order to have the reader think, reflect and have their own opinion. As a result, please keep in mind I’m a writer. In other words, my own opinion, or rather opinions, have been put aside for the upcoming poem collection of reflections captured in this world and life. Hence, the focus is on capturing people’s different viewings of life, leading to each reader being (hopefully) a little provoked to have an opinion themselves, reflect further and start a discussion for a better life for all – with communication and comprehension as the key for evolving with respect and honesty:

Communication and/or comprehension?

(First draft)

They say communication is the key,

But maybe that’s an easy excuse to flee?

We then add in the understanding of comprehension,

for real communication is only as good as the understanding of the counterpart.

Yeah, you know when you are smart,

But you feel it in your heart?

Like it was art?

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Listening to the words of they, undefined, her or him,

Taking all the words in.

Then thinking through the communication given to you,

And maybe truly comprehend that person’s view.

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If communication and comprehension then is the key,

How come we are all so quick to flee?

Is it to feel free?

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I think not,

For feeling free is not a plot.

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To be and feel,

Is beyond a deal.

To feel free is when you finally heal,

And live a life you find real.

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I encourage you all to be free;

Feel the breeze of the sea,

Be a queen B or find yourself a bee,

But look beyond what you can see.

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Master the art of words to communicate,

Purely hearted with no hate.

Then simultaneously the art of patience and perceptions,

For these go hand in hand, understand it’s a must with no exceptions.

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Listen and talk,

Share your mind and offer a walk.

Each to the person within yourself to be true,

Not some “perfect version view” of you,

Share your heart and offer that walk,

Have a real talk.

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I encourage you all to be free,

Far beyond and deep underneath,

Being free is looking beyond what you, in fact, can see.

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For happiness comes from within you,

Yeah, it’s actually true.

For within yourself you are to find,

If you go deep within your mind,

More than the surface of mankind.

Something underneath,

For underneath it all,

Who are you, really, at your core?

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Dear all,

During summer or during fall,

During spring or winter at a winter ball;

Self-love is really all what it means,

To all undecided, kings, and queens.

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Self-love for you to lift yourself up and find,

That happiness in your mind!

Remember to always work towards your goals,

No matter how big or small,

But don’t forget yourself or this world of souls.

Learn the art of communication and comprehension for you all to find,

The something within oneself, in the mind.

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Please be thyself,

Not a soul on a bookshelf.

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Be free,

Be thee,

Use communication and comprehension as the key.

However, have in mind,

Not all of humankind,

Will have the same perception as you’ll find.

Nonetheless, always be true to who you are.

For none are perfect, but we are perfect as we are.

Wouldn’t you agree?

That you too, are perfectly thee?

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For perfections is only found in one owns mind,

If one decides that is what they will find.

In contrast, life’s perfections lie far away,

For imperfections is what makes us all different and interesting in our own way,

That “ich” for family and friends to stay.

People may want perfection in their mind,

But family, friends, colleagues, and others to find,

Only apricate the people who are truly kind.

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When looking at relations to the core,

It could almost be a bore.

Relations to family, friends, colleagues and others to find,

Would only be kind,

If we were a little blind.

Why may you ask?

Let me have the task,

To unmask.

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Relations would be a bore,

If all were close to the shore.

Given all communication was understood,

This world would only be filled with good.

For comprehension for all,

Might be humankind’s downfall.

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On one side we would still change in each our own way,

If one opinion is put on display, but I’m open to hear you say…?

On the other hand,

We might discuss less,

And though there wouldn’t be all this mess;

Of politics, wars and too far beyond one would believe of humankind….

If everyone communicated and understood,

How long would it take before we all would be “one hood”?

Different opinions and factual debates of respect for days,

But then working our way towards just one say?

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My words are for you to think and reflect,

With respect.

However, on one side,

When humankind have been head-to-head,

Even during all the madness, sadness and with all said,

We often have progressed far beyond the first mindset.

On the other hand,

If the key had been used,

We might have been progressed even further without being bruised.

The latter have not been tested so much,

Thus, maybe it’s time for us,

Small or big,

Short or tall,

Colours of all kinds,

To communicate and comprehend,

We are all different and perceptions we have will be coloured by life for each our own,

But we all are the same if we would only look to the bone.

Might this be the time for history to be broken,

And let all voices be spoken?

There is only one way to know the other way…

And that is sitting down, communicate and comprehend what each party has to say.

/ Love & Light, CG

Within You, Find You: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Self-Love

Within You, Find you

If you are to find,

Go within your mind.

.

The perspective you need,

Is found by taking the lead.

.

Taking the lead,

By planting a seed.

To water and love,

Then it will rise above.

.

The perspective you found,

Was being crowned.

.

So dear all kings and queens,

Self-love is all that it means.

.

For when you are fulfilled and whole,

You can share more than a soul.

Happiness is a bliss,

And I will say this:

Be the sunshine in life,

There is no need for a strife.

Share a smile,

And wear it with style!

Spread your wings,

And forget about all unimportant things.

Love & Light / CG

Flowers

In trees I climb,

like a child from that time.

But flowers I see,

how I envy thee.

The envy is not for the things you think,

but shining so bright in all shades of pink.

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Flowers blink,

And people link.

Flowers given,

flower driven.

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Flowers for smiles,

Flowers for love,

Flowers to say,

Flowers to stay.

Flowers given for ways to convey,

used for the words one cannot say.

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Let yourself get lost and found,

from the flowers on the ground.

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Love & Light / CG