My advice would be to be more careful with your words/life then.
Calling women bitches ain’t cool. Nor is it when we women call each other that for “fun” – it ain’t fun. However, as a perpetual optimist, let’s find the light. If anyone calls you a bitch, flip your hair and return ” Oh thank you for calling me a Beauty In Total Control of Herself, try it again and see what happens”. You’re welcome, please share your stories.
Love & Light / CG
My debut book “A Poetry Collection of The Broken and The Divine” is out for sale on Amazon (paperback and e-book). Keep posted for my upcoming book launch event in the near future.
From society and far wider than the school Dean. Yeah, back during gym sessions, class of strict teachers, and all those runs to the lo. “No more to the toilet for you”. Bleeding through tampons, pads, and jeans. We were just teens. So little empathy given for the young; “period pains are part of womanhood” came out from their tongue.
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So often we’re met with disbelief,
For apparently normality is what they all portray it and it seems.
But pains like these are far too much,
To be anything but normal as such.
Still doctors tells you no,
Even when you’ve done the research and almost know. A few tests and the right gyno could solve a lot, but then they lack knowledge of such.
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Cries, vomit, and unexplainable pain,
Will make any people go insane.
Far worse than pain itself,
Is the disbelieve in oneself.
Is all just in my head like they all ensured and said to me,
Or is the fault in lack of knowledge of thee?
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It’s time to wake up and fight,
Fight for a human right.
Right as a woman to be heard,
Not met with absurd.
Knowledge of doctors and society we must,
Let’s lift the problem and trust.
When someone has excruciating pain,
Don’t make them feel far from sane.
Hear their words and reassure,
Though they might lack the knowledge to find,
They will acknowledge you, and contact people who could figure out what’s “wrong with you”. Rather admit to the boundaries of knowledge, than just saying no.
Endometriosis awareness month, but let’s lift it to science of female health. Health is your greatest wealth after all, and I’m sure we’ll find it profitable for all. Investors, society and women around the world, knowledge must be power for sure. When one in ten females has the disease, I question how come we haven’t researched more and found a better cure? Painkillers, the pill, and operations are only useful for a while,
But there should be something more worthwhile.
Until then,
Fight your way through life,
For who says you can’t dance in life while still fighting a strife?
March is the #EndometriosisAwarenessMonth – join the conversation!
The aim is to increase awareness and highlight the symptoms of the condition that affects about one in ten women, with average of about 7 years to get diagnosed.1 The difference between endometriosis and adenomyosis is where the tissue grows, but the two are not mutually exclusive as adenomyosis is seen in 20-89% of women with endometriosis. Adenomyosis is when endometrial-like tissue grows into the muscle of the uterus, while endometriosis is when endometrial-like tissue grows outside the uterus (like on the ovaries, fallopian tubes)2.
My personal story
Last year I got very sick with a lot of different viruses and bacterial infections, resulting in severe constipation, vomiting, fainting, ER visits, and more. One part of the total package of examinations was testing for endometriosis and/or adenomyosis due to a gynecologist who had previously that year found tissue evidence supporting the diagnosis. Before this gynecologist, I’ve been to several different ones and GPs regarding my period pains and flood, but all previous healthcare professionals have turned down my inquiry for testing and been certain in their knowledge that I did not have either, or. Even the doctor who gave me coagulation pills as a teenager, nor the gyno whom I meet at 16 years old for pains. Teachers at my schools were harsh when I had to run to the toilet so much, even though my mother had given a note in advance… even when I was one of the few at secondary school who followed every lecture with a hawk’s eye and sharp pencils writing down every word….
One year ago, right after the first doctor who acknowledged me, I wrote the poem above. One year ago, I didn’t have the courage to publish it. After all last year, I grew, and this year, it’s out. This year I have the courage to stand by it and every word in it. This year, I’m taking a stand – we need to invest more in #womenhealth!
I’ve collected a few information resource links below, but please note that I’m not a doctor and to use critical thinking when searching the web. Moreover, please contact a doctor you trust or ask for a GP and/or a gynecologist with experience in the field if you resonate with the above and suspect it could be Endometriosis or Adenomyosis:
Videos for educational purposes found on Youtube:
• Endometriosis: Causes, Pathophysiology, Symptoms, Diagnosis & Treatment by JJ Medicine here. Short and to the point with info-graphics.
• Endometriosis – Overview (pathophysiology, differential diagnosis, investigations and treatment) by Armando Hasudungan here. Easy to follow drawing video, but a bit longer than the first video.
• Why Medicine Often Has Dangerous Side Effects for Women | Alyson McGregor | TED Talks here.
• What is endometriosis? A Mayo Clinic expert explains here.
• Nurse With Endometriosis Shares Painful Journey To Diagnosis | TODAY here. You’ll feel less alone with this one.
My debut book “A Poetry Collection of The Broken and The Divine” is out for sale on Amazon (paperback and e-book). Keep posted for my upcoming book launch event in the near future.
Healing your inner child, or doing inner-child work, has become a topic of increased popularity. Just search up #innerchild and #innerchildhealing on social media and you’ll see. But what is it and what does it really mean?(Read more after my poem)
If you are to find,
Go within your mind.
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The perspective you need,
Is found by taking the lead.
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Taking the lead,
By planting a seed.
To water and love,
Then it will rise above.
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The perspective you found,
Was being crowned.
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So dear all kings and queens,
Self-love is all that it means.
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For when you are fulfilled and whole,
You can share more than a soul.
Happiness is a bliss,
And I will say this:
Be the sunshine in life,
There is no need for a strife.
Share a smile,
And wear it with style!
Spread your wings,
And forget about all unimportant things.
/CG
You, yourself, and your inner child
Your inner child is the “true/original version of yourself” and can explain many patterns of behavior later in life. Healing your inner child is therefore all about connecting with yourself by recognizing and being aware of oneself, and maybe finding out how to meet your needs and/or change patterns of behavior today you don’t like/find favorable. This could be people-pleasing tendencies and a hard time saying “no”, seeking validation from others, overthinking, being highly critical of yourself or others, not being able to be alone or afraid of being yourself around others, and so much more.
How do you become better acquainted with yourself and your inner child?
By taking time for yourself and taking responsibility for your own wellbeing: thinking, reflecting, and taking actions. This could be done by:
Meditation/breathwork
Writing: a timeline of your life or a letter to yourself
Be honest about your patterns of behavior; reflect on possible explanations from your life and childhood (traumas, episodes?) – which needs weren’t met and/or are not met today? Which actions could you take to have these needs met today?
Talking with a professional therapist
Inner child work is not only about bringing up the past and your “not so favorable” behavioral patterns. More importantly, it’s about knowing yourself fully and truly to be happy in life.
No one is happy all the time, nor should we, for life needs balance, and to truly apricate the good, there must be some bad. However, in order to flourish and sincerely be happy in life, you must know yourself. Therefore, inner-child work is also about finding back to earlier hobbies and interests which gave you joy as a child. Maybe you could take up an old, loved hobby again? Drawing? Painting? Walking in nature? Playing football with friends just for fun? Do tricks with a ball? Reading? Photographing? Make a scrapbook or collage? Create music (DJ, play an instrument)? Or even try something new you always wanted to try, but haven’t yet?
Try to remember how you looked at that hobby as a child, and how you felt when doing it. Most likely you’ll remember a mindset of having fun, being explorative and endless possibilities – not how your later teenager-self, and even later adult, became self-aware of the lack of skills, knowledge, or talent…..
When was the last time you did something just for fun? You don’t have to be good at everything, go do something just for the fun of it – take up that hobby you used to love so much and get to know yourself in the process.
Have fun – just fun, with no pressure of having to “accomplish” something. You’re a terrible painter (or so you say)? Who cares, just have fun with the paint and brushes, or even better – just use your hands. You’ve always wanted to do cartwheels? Go to a park or make space in your living room, do cartwheels, or attempts of such, until you’re dizzy and laughing. If you loved playing with a ball, go juggling freestyle or ask a few friends if they’re up for a round of football?
Point being is to take time to know yourself truly, heal, and have fun. Put your wellbeing as a priority and make time for joy in your life. Do more of the things making you happy, without thinking of accomplishment or “having to do something” in the sense you “must”. Try not to grow up so quickly while doing all #adulting things – be playful and let your inner child out. “I get to” play football with my friends, paint for an hour a week, read a book before bedtime… The process may be hard, but if you have kids of your own at this point in life, look at and to them – take in their perspective: Join their playing instead of just observing and ensuring safety; join at the trampoline, on their muddy adventures in the forest, during their cartwheel practice, when drawing and painting everywhere, in their videogames/PC/PlayStation and so on.
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